Hey! I see you over there. Stressed. Overwhelmed. Trying to juggle the responsibilities of being a mom while being successful in your business. At this point, you’re probably thinking who am I kidding? I thought the same thing (and if we’re being completely honest, I still do sometimes). Being a mom is hard. Owning a business or working for yourself is hard. Doing them at the same dang time is nearly impossible – at the end of the day, you end up getting zilch done except majorly stress yourself out. Would more hours in the day be nice? Abso-freaking-lutely! But since that ain’t happening, it’s time to bring some balance in your life.
For this mama of two who not only has this blog but a job away from home, I know finding balance can get pretty difficult. And it may take some time and a little trial and error to find what routine works best for you. But it is totally possible, sister! I’ve watched homeschool moms of multiples grow and lead their own businesses from their own home. I would always just sit there and say to myself, “whatever they sprinkled in their Wheaties this morning, I need some of it…” Then I researched a little here, took some online classes and workshops there, and I’m here to deliver what I’ve discovered! Being able to stay at home with your babies is such a blessing and it’s something I miss terribly (but when you can basically hear your bank account laughing at you, it’s time to get to work.) Even if you work away from home, this list is something that anyone could apply to their life to help minimize stress and achieve balance in your life. Namaste.
Be fully present.
Whatever you do, whenever you are doing it, give it 100%. If you are working on your biz, zone in and actually work it. Give it your all and be productive. Don’t do that thing where you “work” for an hour and realize you didn’t get anything done (like what happens when I clean the house…) When you spend time with your kids, shut the laptop, turn off the tv and put the phone away. Give them every ounce of your attention. To me, this is one of the most important part; it will leave you with less of that mom guilt when you lay your head down at night and I know I am always trying to avoid that mess.
Find your Golden Hour.
We all have a time of day that we are at our best, when our minds are at their sharpest. For most people, that would be morning time – you’re well rested, the day has only just begun, the sun is shining and you are ready to go. This is when you can work on pumping out those big projects and brainstorming ideas to grow your biz. Not a morning person? I haven’t always been either…until I had kids, then I was forced into it. But now I would prefer to wake up earlier to get things done. Whether you’re a morning person OR not, I would 110% recommend the book The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod (he also has one for entrepreneurs but this is the book I have and it is a game changer for ANYONE, entrepreneur or not)!
Take time for yourself.
Don’t get so caught up in the daily biz and mom grind that you forget to take care of yourself. Unplug, relax, detox. Remember, if you aren’t at your best, neither is your business and neither is your household. Even if it’s just half an hour, take some time for one of your favorite hobbies, soak in the tub, take a run, do some yoga, get a massage. Do anything to focus on yourself. Let your mind take a breather from all the to do lists and chaos. If you still find it hard to clear your mind and relax, do a brain dump – take a blank sheet of paper and write down every little thing that comes to mind. You will feel all the relief. Seriously, it’s so satisfying.
Goal setting and planning.
Planning and goal setting is SO important. It may seem overwhelming in itself to some but if you just take a few hours out of the beginning of each week to plan that week out, you’re cluttered mind will thank you. I know planning with small kids is almost impossible but just trust me on this. If you have a toddler, by this point they are probably on somewhat of a routine so plan around that the best you can and if something doesn’t go as planned, don’t freak out. For example, my toddler wakes up, takes a nap and goes to sleep at pretty much the same times every day, so I plan to work on my blog at those times. Find yourself a super cool planner and bright colored pens and get to planning! I use a Recollections planner with inserts from Sew Much Crafting and I totally dig my setup. And don’t forget about goal setting! This step will help you stay on task and be productive. Write those goals down and keep them where you can see them. Do this once a month or at the beginning of every quarter. Grab the free worksheet below!
Prioritize and focus.
Once you’ve set your goals and planned your days, prioritize your tasks and focus on one at a time. We usually wear all the hats but don’t try to wear them all at the same time. It just doesn’t work. You’ll get overwhelmed and stress yourself out more than you already were, which affects your work negatively, which affects how you run your household and that in turn affects your work, and you see where I’m going with this. It’s a vicious cycle so don’t get caught up in it.
Let it goooo.
That’s stuck in your head now, right? You’re welcome. Did you mess up at work? Did the stress still make it’s way to you and you got a little snippy with your kiddos? No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. Don’t sulk in your past mistakes – that’s not productive nor helpful in any way. It only makes stress and overwhelm 10x worse. Make like Elsa and let it go.
Ask for help when you need it.
Sometimes, we just cannot handle ALL of the things. It’s okay to ask for help. You’re busy and those around you understand that. If you find yourself in a slump or find your to do list and anxiety rising by the minute it seems, ask for as much help as you need. Never be too proud to ask for a lending hand or two. I used to think I could handle it all. I rarely asked for help and actually refused it when it was offered. Don’t be like old Caitlin.
I hope this helps all of you overwhelmed mamas out there! Keep on rocking and rolling.
What helps you keep a balanced life?